Happy and Blessed Monday!
I need to explain what I am about to write, I guess. Because of the Christmas season, I have done Christmas related posts. For the past month though, God has been nudging me towards something that I wouldn’t normally write about so MAYBE, just maybe there is someone who reads this, be it email or website that needs to hear my story.
I celebrated my 40th anniversary the first week of December. That is personal for me, but I’m sure you’re wondering what that has to do with you. I hope, nothing, but just in case, here we go.
Most people thought we wouldn’t make it long. Shoot, I wasn’t sure we would make it long. We weren’t following the Lord as we should have been and we had hard times. A lot of them.
You know what the difference was though? This was a second marriage for us both. While I was raised in church, and I recognized that we made a commitment to each other, it really didn’t go any further.
Little did I realize that it is so much more.
I was sitting in a church service one Sunday and the pastor starts talking about the covenant you make with God when you marry. In all my years of going to church, I had never heard that you were literally making a covenant with God. It changed my entire outlook on marriage. It was no longer about just me and him. It was about HIM too!
That’s the day I decided that no matter how irritated we get with each other, even on the days I didn’t really like him much, we would work through it. I am NOT saying you should put your life, or anyone else’s life in danger. That is an entirely different situation. So often though, we let opinions, personality differences and so many other things eat away at our relationships. Once again, it’s only about the two of you.
What I have learned is that is not just about the two of you. Marriage is a three cord strand and the inclusion of God is the most important. It is God, the husband and the wife. Note that God is listed first. As long as He is first, so many things that seemed really important before, become insignificant.
So, if someone out there is struggling, if doubts are dominating your mind, turn to the One who can handle it all. You made a commitment to each other but you made a covenant with the Father.
There are some scripture verses listed below. Read them slowly. I am praying for anyone who may need to hear this. God Bless you all.
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Matthew 19:6 ESV votes
So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Genesis 2:24 ESV
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Malachi 2:14-16 ESV
But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”
Malachi 2:14 ESV
But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.